When Casual sex is right for you
It’s time you get out there and learn some new skills. Embrace the increased self-confidence that comes with practice. Build new friendships, expand your repertoire, have orgasms.
Sounds great, right?
We accept extramarital sex, oral sex and even kinky sex. Why not casual sex?
Fundamentally, humans need adventure, novelty and risk. Let's face it - we're downright inquisitive creatures. Casual sex can satisfy some of these inclinations.
But don’t worry,
if the thought of casual sex makes your stomach turn, you may not be a good candidate. It isn’t for everyone – just like Zumba or cross fit isn’t for everyone.
The key is authenticity.
Similar to varied food preferences, lifestyle choices and professional pursuits, some of us have a stronger need to explore intimacy. Your casual sex spectrum is unique to you. Take a moment and consider the following:
- How comfortable are you with having sex with people you don’t know very well? Does the thought turn you on or fill you with dread?
- Does the idea of casual sex sound enjoyable or exciting or panic-attack inducing?
- Where does casual sex sit on your morality scale? Is it morally acceptable for you to actively participate?
- How would you feel if you have sex with this person and then never see them again?
Now check in with yourself. Which ranks higher - dread or excitement? Be honest. These questions are designed to evoke a response and help you gauge whether casual sex is right for you.
Word of caution
To the casual sex novice to sexpert, with a new partner, it’s even more crucial that you practice sexual authenticity. Openly communicate what you want and don’t want from the experience.
You may look to borrow some consent 101 and scene staging thoughts from the BDSM community. And finally – stay away from drugs and alcohol, especially in the casual sex arena. They make you do things you didn’t want to do with people you didn’t want to do them with.
Casual sex isn’t just for single people. Consensual non-monogamy is an option for couples who crave novelty and new experiences. The key is open communication and honesty with your partner.
And remember practice makes perfect! Take charge of your sexual adventure.